indulge me

y'know, there's a quality that's such a super-big help in relationships, i don't know why they don't have a class for it in school. yeah, i know, school isn't really about helping you have relationships, but considering how much importance our society puts on them, you'd think it would be.

anyway, before i get too far off on talking about school ...

the quality is what i would call "patience plus." it's finding a way to take pleasure in what the other person is saying or doing even if it's not your most favoritest thing. it's encouraging them instead of just tolerating them when they start to go down a road you're maybe not so keen on. because whatever it is they're excited about, it's part of them, and if you love them, you need to find a way to love it.

it guess the proper word for that is "indulgence." although indulgence is something we usually associate with selfishness -- it's a lot more regular to think about indulging in something, instead of indulging someone.

but you can do both, and you ought to!

(and they ought to turn around and indulge you, too.)

so that's the lesson for today at claire's school for relationships.

your homework is: indulge!

me on top!

sometimes, if things aren't rockin' your world the way they ought to, you just have to take charge.

turn things around.

get off your back and get an angle on the situation -- be in control.

sometimes, all it takes is flipping things over, and all of a sudden, you've got a lot more freedom to move, you can position things better, you can shift and tip and find the sweet spot until ...

pow!

the cork is popped ...

clang!

the bell is rung ...

va-rooom!

that engine turns over and roars.

of course, if there's somebody else involved, you probably ought to say "please" before taking the bull by the horns.

but if you sweet-talk them, they'll probably say okay.

photorama

we did some dressing up and getting down at our house recently, and msg snapped some pictures along the way. here's a sampling ... i may post more later!

i like this one:

it makes me seem like i'm all, "don't make me come over there!"

meanwhile, i think this is a pretty good view of my assets:

later, taters!

claire

seashores and sunsets

toes in the sand ...

sounds ... birds and waves and wind ...

nice!

i like to be told i'm beautiful

who doesn't?

ode to me

i asked msg to write me an on-the-spot poem tonight, just while he was looking at me as we got ready for bed. here's what he came up with:

gentle

faithful

thoughtful

playful

wise

caring

soft

sharing

unreserved

undeserved

and

lovely

lovely

lovely

i thought it was pretty good! i told him he was wrong about the "undeserved" part, though. if anyone deserves to have someone bugging him for a poem, it's msg.

goodnight, sweetie!

: )

can i touch you?

can i put my hand on your shoulder or your face and make you feel better?

it's a big, bad world, but i'd like to make it smaller and closer and better.

i'm pretty sure there aren't too many people reading this blog.

but even if there's just one or two, and even if i just make things a tiny bit brighter for them, well, that's a start, isn't it?

anyway, if the things i write touch you, do me a favor, okay?

take them out in the world and use them to brighten the place up for someone else, too.

oh ... and if you were hoping i meant the other kind of touching, go check my other blog. i'll write an entry there for everybody who was disappointed in the non-sexiness of this one!

hugs,

claire